Apr 9 2015
It seems like in this day and age we are all more comfortable with labels. In this case, we are talking about describing someone’s appearance and sexual interests. Especially in the gay world, we like to be able to use a word or two to sum each other (and at times ourselves) up. Bear, Muscle Queen, Daddy, Twink, Bitch…
1). What’s your type?
People tend to respond to a specific type. Sometime, they look exactly like themselves, sometimes the opposite. The downside to having a type is that they come with pre-conceived expectations. You might expect a certain type to be a bottom or a top. You risk missing out if you presume something ahead of time.
2).Why the need to create categories?
We are heavily influenced by what others in the gay community like and what gay media deems appropriate. Terms like bear, cub, otter, and twink are thrown around a lot today. Does it make us feel like we are part of a special group? Does it help find others like us, thereby celebrating our own self-image? Probably a bit of both, as sometimes the labels are used to celebrate and put down groups at the same time. Decide for yourself on what the categories mean for you.
3). How do you think you are perceived? Do you like how you are described? People who are quick to label frequently don’t like how they themselves are described. Why is that? You may be able to change your appearance to some degree, depending on how much work you want to do. There are many different ways you can set yourself apart, aside from how you look.
4). Do you find yourself only hooking up with one type?
There is nothing wrong with that, but you might be limiting your experiences. Try something new. Maybe check out a bear night, a twink night, a latin night. You can only learn more about the community and yourself.
Do you have a type? Do you fit into a “group”?